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Are They Glad You’re In Their Lives? By Allan Cox

  in Opinions | Published 2012-12-14 22:28:38 | 714 Reads | Unrated

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Who are the most significant people in your life How do they view you

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Who are the most significant people in your life? How do they view you? Do they rely on you? Draw strength from you? Are they fed from your nature or drained by it?



I can help you learn how to understand and express yourself so you can get inside the lives of the people you care about most. Belong. Add value. The life you want to have must be genuine, uniquely yours, truly understanding of yourself and how/why you interact in your relationships. Your deepest desire is to be loved and loving it, making your contribution seamlessly, knowing how to do this in an every
day way.



Other-centeredness is much more than a do-good notion. It ensures our enriched survival. Take away our linkages to who and what enfolds us and we suffer unbearable isolation, a life that lacks the capability to meet the challenges of a complex world. Family, friends, factories, fields and streams, coworkers and neighbors, strangers toward whom we’re moving, or will - this is the human inborn disposition: ties that bind. Too many fail to step up onto this building block and instead fall into a boiling stew-pot of self-reference. This oversight taints lives across the social fabric and threatens danger to the loner’s health - physically and emotionally.



What follows are thought-starters to ponder, questions to ask yourself and an excerpt of a poem I wrote to reflect upon. They are thought starters to begin a journey to a more authentic you, a you who truly adds value to the lives of others. I invite you to commit one hour to this exercise. Maybe Sunday morning over coffee, Tuesday over lunch or with a glass of wine Friday evening. Your call.



Dedicate that hour to you and move into reflection mode. Grab a notepad and free your mind. Let images pop into your head. Dismiss no thoughts or ideas; even those that initially seem silly may lead to great insights. Go! Range far and wide. Learn lessons where you don’t expect to find them.



* List the people in your life. Think about family, teachers, coaches and clergy - everyone who has influenced or supported you. Include bosses, colleagues, subordinates, customers and suppliers. Remember the old friend who’s slipped off your radar, the beloved aging neighbor.



* Ask yourself: Do I bring them joy? How do I enrich the lives of others?



* What am I here for?



* What do I want to accomplish?



* Who do I want to connect with?



* Be awake to people who touch you deeply. What is it about them that’s about you?



* Valor and value come from the same root, val, meaning “worth.” multiply your worth by showing valor in the little things.



* Waiters lacking peripheral vision fail. Same story with executives. Same story with parents.



* Let’s say you grew up in the wrong part of town. Maybe you should go back for a visit. Maybe you could make the difference there for someone.



* Together and separate is the paradox to live, learn, experiment with, and relish - the growth in the other means the growth in you.



* Think of team in everything you do. Your individual effort is critical as ever, but merely your expression of the team apart.



* Have I learned how to be a good team leader? Team member? These skills must be learned.



* Encouragement does not mean mild, bland support but to help make courageous. This is one way we are our brother’s keeper. Step in.



* Loving is the only way to find out what in life you’re being asked to do.



* Modeling is showing how you do it well while keeping your mouth shut.



* The notion of being held up - supported - grates us on some because we don’t like to think of ourselves as being so dependent - weak, even.



* “If everyone would sweep in front of his own door, the whole world would be clean.” - Goethe



Destiny (excerpt)



The dark waters you entered

will part.

No powers of fear or treachery

will defeat you.

You came willingly,

conveyed into the swells

by summons of the divine source -

who spends all

your vitality.

You complied

without hesitation

because you know

you’re needed.



Reach out. Let in. This is the true nurturing of self. Set your notes aside and reflect next week upon what you have written. The insights you uncovered are powerful ideas that lead to self-discovery and, if you follow them, meaningful change that will enrich not only your life, but the lives of everyone around you.

Allan Cox is a CEO advisor, poet-blogger and author of ten books including, WHOA! Are They Glad You’re in They’re Lives? He offers insights and exercises for personal and professional growth in his books and at http://www.AllanCox.com. Find Allan on Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, Scribd and Red Room.

Allan Cox is a CEO advisor, poet-blogger and author of ten books including, WHOA! Are They Glad You’re in They’re Lives? He offers insights and exercises for personal and professional growth in his books and at http://www.AllanCox.com. Find Allan on Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, Scribd and Red Room.

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Allan Cox is a CEO advisor, poet-blogger and author of ten books including, "WHOA! Are They Glad You’re in They’re Lives?" Discover more insights and exercises for personal and professional growth in his books and at http://www.AllanCox.com. Find Allan on Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, Scribd and Red Room.